n the day and the life of me

So today was eventful - to say the least. My eldest son got a referral yesterday and on the referral it stated "recess detention for saying a BB GUN WILL HURT SOMEONE"... WOW! was my thought; why in the world would a 9 year old get into trouble for stating the obvious? So of course off to the principles office I went today, along with my husband... and the #1 answer I got was "It was a conversation that went wrong"... O.K. so the school is now telling me that because my son knows the differance between right and wrong and when another student tells him that BB guns won't hurt someone and my son CORRECTS him it's ok for the teacher and princeiple to over-react and get MY kid into trouble? Umm NO! What has this world come too? So here we sit, in the principles office explaining that Dakota is VERY black and white... he calls them as he sees them and it is NOT ok for him to get into trouble for stating the TRUTH! nor is it ok for him to have to apologize to students who (according to him and this was addressed) are trying to "mob" him in the play ground for a conversation THEY WERE ALL having! This is how my day starts... GREAT! So on to the rest of the day, everything is going well here at the house, grocery shopping and cleaning and laundry... pretty uneventful stuff. But an under-lying sense of something is wrong. If you have or have ever had a spouse you know that when your husband asks you "what's wrong" and you have TRIED to talk to them for weeks this is bad... well a blow up occured between him and I. When I say blow up I don't mean screaming and yelling - we don't do that esp. with the kids home, it's not healthy for them to see that nor to hear it. So a conversation ensued and a bunch of stuff was released that doesn't need to be blown up here, it's a private matter or a sense of pride. But I will say that a lack of communication is not good and the sense of "just being really good friends" is not a good feeling either. Here's hoping he heard me (yes it felt that one sided) and here's hoping we can get through this. We have gotten through worse and with flying colors, I don't see us not getting through this one. Then dinner (burritos) and kids baths, now it's relax time and hopefully some one on one time with my hubby... without heavy conversations... night